9/15/2008

Loss for Words

A note from Melis...

A very nice mom friend of mine came up to me this weekend and expressed her sorrow for our family and apologized for not talking to me sooner - but she simply didn't know what to say. I know this is troubling everyone - even me. I don't know what to say either.

Please know that a seemingly simple "I'm sorry" and a hug is huge. Really. I'll see you this week.

11 comments:

Shannon said...

You are not alone...you will never be alone. I'm ALWAYS here for you girlfriend!
xo, Shan

San Diego Mom said...

I might be speaking for all of Max's former classmates, I don't know, but at least I have this small and dark feeling of "survivor's guilt"....

My best friend's mom, when her daughter passed away at 24, said she always felt delighted to see us coming back to visit her but at the same time couldn't suppress the feeling of loneliness and jealousy as she saw us grow old and had our life's milestones (getting married, having kids, etc.) when her daughter remained forever 24.

I would like to believe and hope that even though you and I might strongly and sadly feel the absence of Max when Kent and I see your family next time, our friendship will last and we share the good memories of Max together.

with HUGE HUG and kiss,
Shiho

Anonymous said...

I wish I really knew you because I would go up and say "I'm sorry" and give you a hug. As a member of your cybercommunity that doesn't really know your family, I want you to know that I still check the site regularly because I miss Max and think about your family all of the time.

robyn said...

Continuing to pray for all of you...

Anonymous said...

Melissa, I am miles away physically..but I am always there in spirit as you continue on this new journey..Please feel a huge warm hug...a smile..and that I am living life to the max because of 'your Max'..Sending prayers and love your way. xo Linny

Talita - Calebs mom said...

Its amazing what the internet is cabale of doing. When you add that with a beautiful little boy and his amazing family, it changes you forever. I learned to live life to the MAX, I can´t help but admire you and all your family, in the middle of all the cause that you where living and live you still find and found ways to touch us all.
Feel Hugged and I am sorry, and wished I knew what else to type.
Love from Brasil!

Anonymous said...

Hey Melissa...
Hugs from PB --- we think of you and your Max daily and will post comments more since we know that means something.

Neil & Margot

Anonymous said...

Hi Melissa-
Continue to think of all of you every day. Max's smile and sparkly eyes from your pictures is branded in my brain and I think about him all the time.
Carrie Palmer

Anonymous said...

Miss him. So sorry that such a beautiful family had to lose such a wonderful boy. I am truly sorry and I think of him all the time and make a wish on a star every time the stars are out here on the East Coast. I, too, do live life to the Max, thanks to your Max. We are so blessed to have your sharing of him with us. Warm, kind thoughts for you both and Nic and Hannah. Many prayers are going your way. Max is at peace and looking down on all of you who loved him and all of us who knew of him. Peace to your family.

East Coast Friend

Anonymous said...

Melissa,
Jillian asked about Max tonight and it made me want to check to see if you guys had written anything recently.
I wanted you to know we are all still thinking of you guys. And also, that I love the pictures of Max with his curly blond hair.
Amy

Sera Fina said...

I think of you & your family often & though I do not know for sure what words to comfort you most, I am sending a hug & love from my heart. You & your incredibly beautiful & couragous family have touched our lives in this family & because of Max I am reminded to live life to the Max with bravery & strength. Thank you for all you share & my prayers & thoughts are with you & your family every day.

God bless you.
Sera, Bella, & Kaia

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